Wife Does Not Want Her Husband To Be The Father Of Her Children ? Part 2

One year later ? after the automobile accident:It has been a rough year for Dana since she got out of the hospital.* She did spend about ten days in a live-in care center that started her through intense physical therapy. She has gone from being in a wheelchair to gaining the strength to stand on her feet again, learning how to walk between parallel bars, being able to walk on her own with a walker, then using a cane, over the past few months she?s walking pretty much on her own without any aid.I felt she did exceptionally well with her physical therapy.* She convinced herself that she could go back to work, starting part-time.* She started doing some financial analysis work from home. Only recently has she started driving herself to work for two to three days per week. She said it makes her feel that she is a contributor to society instead of a taker.*It was only the last four months or so that we were able to attempt having sex.* The biggest problem was that I could not put any weight on her pelvis or push her legs up to her sides like usual. She said it hurt too much to do that right now.* It seemed our best success at first was to have her lay on our bed or the kitchen table with her feet touching the floor. This way there was only her body weight to contend with, but I still had to be careful not to lean on her. It was a little tricky sliding my cock into her velvety vagina from her backside without putting any pressure on her.* I think we finally got things working right when we had a great sex session when I stood entirely on my own and tilted forward from my feet, pushing my cock into her with her legs spread wide.* She was able to have a good orgasm when we did it that way. ***She and I have had several detailed and heart-to-heart conversations about her desire for children and our future.* The doctors had told us that eventually, she would start having menstrual cycles again, which started about six months ago. However, any attempt to get her pregnant still was not working.We decided she should go to a fertility specialist and see what they could tell her about the state of her reproductive organs, especially her ovaries and uterus.The testing was grueling for her, which included detailed ultrasound scans (both internal and external), an orthoscopic internal inspection, X-rays with dye injections, blood tests for hormone levels, and other tests that took several hours to complete. We got the results a week later. *What we found out was not very encouraging.The tests showed that one ovary was functional, but its Fallopian tube appeared to be damaged and blocked. The other ovary was atrophied and did not appear to be functional.* Her uterus appears to be intact and fully functional, even though it has some external scar tissue on it, the doctors did not see any reason why it would have any trouble carrying and delivering a baby. ***They gave a detailed explanation of the options that we had to do to get a baby started:A: Have surgery to repair her one Fallopian tube and open it up so an egg can travel through it. This would let her have her own children. However, the surgery would be expensive and was not guaranteed to be a success. It still required a fertile male to provide the sperm.*B: In vitro fertilization (IVF) involves retrieving some of her eggs from her one good ovary, fertilize the eggs outside of her body with sperm, the embryos are placed in an incubator and observed for two to five days, then one or two of the best ones are injected into her uterus in the hope of them implanting and growing into a baby. The remaining embryos are frozen for future use.C: Surrogate: Two types ? Traditional surrogate and Gestational Surrogate:*Traditional Surrogate is the goal of artificial insemination: the sperm is injected directly into the woman's uterus. Fertilization takes place inside the woman?s uterus with her egg that has been released from her ovary.* The woman contributes her own DNA for the baby.*Gestational Surrogate: a donor egg is fertilized by sperm outside of a woman?s body. Once fertilized, it is allowed to grow for up to five days (then it is called an embryo) and is implanted in the woman?s uterus that will (hopefully) be growing and delivering the baby. The woman carrying the baby contributes no DNA to the baby. *Any extra-unused embryos can be frozen for future use.The surrogate options left many questions for us: Who would furnish the embryos? What did the parents look like? What type of medical and mental history did they have? Even though it was an option, she just didn?t have a strong desire to use a donor egg fertilized by some unknown father as she had no idea what he was like, both physical body style and size, hair and skin color, etc.* In addition, Ümraniye Escort it would not be her DNA.**There are pros and cons to each of the options. The success rate for option A (Surgery to fix her Fallopian tube) ranges from 20-60% depending on what they find when they get in there.* IVF is a strong possibility, but has nominal success with 20-35% success per cycle, and gets very expensive quickly, with no promise of success. *Her desire for children was still very strong. She was still considered young at thirty-two years old and felt she had the strength to go through one of the procedures. *After all the events over the last year, she had changed her mind about her demand that someone other than me be her sperm donor. She had concluded that having a child fathered by me could be an acceptable option. Another main point is that she knew that if it were my child, I would stay and help her through the pregnancy and help take care of her and the baby afterward. She would not have to go it alone.We were still working on finding the funds for the Fallopian tube surgery and negotiating with my insurance company to see if they would cover any of the costs when we received a particularly unique and surprising option.One evening after dinner, we received an unexpected phone call from Olivia, widow of Richard. She asked if we were going to be home in about thirty minutes and asked if she can come over and discuss something with us about which she has to make a big decision.I said to Dana that my immediate thoughts were, ?Oh no! Is she going to try to bring a court case against us for something ? like aiding and abetting being part of the death of her husband somehow??Dana replied, ?I doubt there is anything that she can try to say I caused that will have any validity in court. Let?s just calm down and see what she wants to say to us.?About forty minutes later, the doorbell rang.* I went to the door and greeted Olivia as nicely as I could.* I asked her to come in and sit down. She chose our large stuffed chair that faced the couch.* Dana came in and sat on the couch by me.* I asked Olivia if she would like a cold bottle of water.* She replied, ?Yes, that would be nice. With what I?ve got to tell you, I will probably need it.? *Dana and I looked at each other with puzzled faces.I handed her the water and she took a drink, Olivia turned to both of us and started, ?Dana, I know that this past year has been hell-on-earth for you because it has been for me.* I can imagine the pain of healing from the accident and the long physical therapy was a terrible agony to endure.* For me, life without Richard has been tough, both emotionally, physically, and financially.* The insurance money helped a lot and I?m beginning to think I?m going to make it through this after all.??But I didn?t come here to tell you about my woes. I am sure you do not want to hear that.* Why I came here is to offer you something extremely personal to Richard and me.* Dana, I remembered that you said that you had admired my family and said you wanted to have children just like them.* You adored their dark hair, their physical build, and their good looks. I understand that in an attempt to have children like mine you joined in the affair with Richard.?Dana nodded silently as she was thinking back to their conversation in the hospital.?Nobody knows, not even my children, that we had some fertilized embryos of ours frozen. The reason is that right after my last child was born, I had a lymphoma cancer that needed chemotherapy and radiation to cure. That would, of course, have destroyed my eggs for any future children.* We did not know if we were finished having children or not, so we had several of my eggs harvested and fertilized with Richard?s sperm.* We chose to freeze the embryos instead of eggs because we were told that the survival rate was higher for the embryos as they did not seem to be as delicate as just the eggs would be.??I have been paying over eight hundred dollars per year to keep them frozen. They can survive indefinitely as long as their storage payments are met. I am much older now and have no desire to have another child. I am even going to be a grandmother soon. The time to have children is when you are much younger. *I also do not see much of a need to continue to pay to keep the embryos frozen.* I need to decide as to what to do with them.?*?My options are to give them away or have them destroyed. By giving them to the fertility center, there is only a small chance that they will ever be used. If by chance they do get used by total strangers, I will not know anything about the parents and what happened to my embryo children. I do not want to think about that possibility.The Ümraniye Escort Bayan destruction option is not easy to do either. *I do not know if I can go through that ordeal. That would be like experiencing a part of Richard dying all over again?That brings me to my main reason for coming to see you tonight.* It struck me deeply when you said you wanted a family just like mine. You were envious of the family I had. You did not want my husband. You wanted him to be the father of your children. With that thought in mind, I am asking if you would consider using the embryos to have your own children.* They would be full sisters and brothers of Richard and my living children.* Everything that you were looking for would be in these children.?Needless to say, Dana and I were both taken aback and dumbfounded by her offer. Of course, we had no idea that these embryos existed. I did not know what to think.*After a couple of glances at Dana, I turned back to Olivia, I asked a question that had come to mind, ?Since you are technically their biological mother, how much interaction and control would you want to have with them?* Would these children be ours to raise as we want, or will you demand some type of control as to the decisions that need to be made in their lives??Olivia responded, ?By giving you these embryos, I am giving you complete and total control of how they are used and how to raise the children that they grow into.* I will not have any control or influence on any decision you make concerning them.* I do hope that we will continue to have a good enough relationship that you would still let me see them from time to time. I would hope to be something like another grandmother, aunt, or another relative. I?d be whatever you feel comfortable calling me.??But of course, this is up to you two. You could ban me from their lives completely ? and that is your right as their parents.* However, I would hope you would not do that. We could find a way to let them get to know me as a relative of some type. *However, when they got much older, like graduating from high school, I would hope that you would tell them where they came from and who their real biological parents are. If nothing else but for DNA traceability if there happens to be a genetic or medical question come up in the future. They should also know that information when they start to have their children.?Olivia turned to Dana, ?Have you got any questions or anything else you would like to discuss more fully? *This decision has a direct influence on your personal and career life, as well as both of your futures. What do you want to ask or have me clarify??Dana looked like a deer in the headlights. She stammered for a moment but finally did ask, ?Olivia, you know I felt a lot for Richard. I know as his wife that you have the right to resent me and want nothing to do with me.* I just don?t fully understand why you would give something so personal of yours and Richard?s to someone that slept with your husband, someone that actually conceived a child with him? ?Olivia responded, ?Dana, knowing that Richard had lied to me again and has spent a few evenings with you hurt me considerably, but I guess because of his past infidelities, it didn?t crush me. I recovered from his past affairs; I knew that I could recover from this one too.* Of course, he has not been here to answer for his actions this time and I guess I am still angry with him for that. But I think in time, I?ll forgive him.??Forgiveness means we can go on with our lives without the bitterness of anger and hate clouding our daily decisions. Of all the women Richard had been with, none of them ever wanted him for his DNA.* You were the only one that had a different motive than the others. You liked what he had given me and you wanted the same. That?s unique in my book. That?s why you seemed to be the best and only real choice to offer these embryos to.?She stood up indicating that she had to leave.Olivia said, ?Now, I know that this is a lot to absorb and comprehend all at once. If you can think of anything more that you would like to ask me, please feel free to call me any time. I do not need a decision tonight.* The next payment on the embryos is due next month, so I hope I can get an answer from you in about four weeks.??If you decide not to use them, I will probably let them thaw out and be destroyed. If I stop paying the freezer storage fees, I?m told that they will only keep them a year then destroy them, even though they are still viable embryos all along.? ***Olivia started moving towards the doorway. We thanked her for letting us have this privilege. Dana hugged her and she turned to me and said, ?I will understand Escort Ümraniye whatever your decision is.? I hugged her, she said goodbye, then turned and we watched her walk to her car, get in, and drive away. She still exhibited that sense of class and dignity that I had seen a year earlier in the hospital. *I grabbed Dana?s hand and walked back to the couch. I sat down with her and looked directly into those beautiful hazel-colored eyes, ?Well, how do you feel about this offer?? I purposely did not say anything else at that time, as I wanted to hear her uninfluenced thoughts.Dana replied, ?Wow!* This is a huge new development. I have really mixed emotions. I had written everything off with Richard after the accident. Suddenly, all the same issues seem to have come back again ? only a little more convoluted.* This time, it is not my eggs.* It will be Richard and Olivia?s children, born into our family and raised by us as their parents. Neither you nor I will have any DNA in these children. They will be like our adopted children, but I will birth them as a gestational surrogate mother. As their mother, my name will be on their birth certificates. But who will be listed as the father?* You or Richard???Dana, you know the past couple of years have been horrible for us both. The anger about you not wanting to have any children of mine hurt me extremely deeply.* It was the end of our marriage. We actually came within a month of being divorced before I stopped it when you had the accident. *You had turned your back on me and determined that you wanted to have Richard?s children so badly that you would give me up and our marriage to have them. *Now you get a second chance to have Richard?s children. The only change is that it is not your eggs.* The family you admire will have additional blood relatives ? but they will be our children.?I continued with something that had been on my mind for months, ?There are some other questions that I need to get answered before I can decide what to do about this decision.??What other questions do you have?* If you are as bewildered as I am, I can understand that you have many questions. I just don?t know what to say and think about all of this.??Dana, I have one major question that needs to be answered that has bothered me for most of the time we?ve been trying to get you pregnant. Before you changed your mind as to who should be your sperm donor, we tried for several months to get you pregnant with my sperm.* After doing everything, as we were supposed to, you still never got pregnant. However, you conceived a child with Richard the first time you had sex during your fertile time. We know from the test results that were just completed, that now you have one useful ovary with a blocked Fallopian tube, but a fully functioning uterus. If we pay to get the blocked tube fixed, I want to make sure I can get you pregnant.* What I am saying is that I want to be tested. Maybe I am infertile. That information will help a lot in this decision.?Dana replied, ?I have wondered about that too.* We were doing everything right, but no pregnancy happened.* Yes, getting you tested could give us the information we need right now.? *Two weeks later, I had an appointment with the fertility clinic where we had been before and Dana was curious, she said she would come along to see what they did.* They interviewed me about my past and current medications, my medical history, diseases I have had, any accidents that might have damaged my groin area. They also, as expected, did a scrotal ultrasound, a transrectal ultrasound, drew a couple of vials of blood, and then asked for a sperm sample ? in a cup.They said that my wife could assist in that task if I wanted her to. It was nice to have my wife there because she provided the best way to get the sperm sample. We were allowed to lock ourselves in a room that had an exam table with stirrups. She got excited and immediately stripped herself naked and crawled upon the table, then put her feet in the stirrups. She said, ?I?m going to make one of my wild fantasies about a doctor and an exam table come true right now with you.? I took everything off from my waist down. There was a white doctor's coat hanging in the room. She told me to put it on, but leave the front unbuttoned. The nurses had supplied a special condom that does not harm the sperm or add any harmful chemicals or additives.*With her naked and in stirrups, it did not take long for me to notice that she had shaved her pussy completely bald for me. I asked her if she did this just for this to happen today, she giggled and said, ?I was hoping that this situation might happen and I wanted to surprise you.? *She had a smile from ear to ear, as I started to place my fully erect cock at the lips of her already moist vagina. She said, ?Go ahead, doctor, my pussy is waiting for you.? I had to push a little to penetrate her as her lubrication was not fully ready without more foreplay, but with the help of my saliva, I was able to finally get all the way in and start pumping.