It's a Wonderful Life

This is a story of experiences I have had in my life and experiences that I would love to have.

My wife and had arrived at a point in our lives when everyday activities no longer revolved around our children. There was a time when we couldn't conceive of this ever happening but then, as the years went by, came the realization that it was a good thing. Our children needed, and wanted, their independence and we needed, and wanted, ours. This seems to be a point in a lot of couple's lives when they realize that the children were the glue that kept them together.

After the children leave and the couple is left alone, there is nothing but silence between them and divorce is almost inevitable. We were lucky... very lucky. After 20 years of marriage we still loved each other which, in and of itself, doesn't necessarily guarantee the success of a marriage. A couple can still love each other but not be compatible. The difference was we were still in love. Whether alone or in a crowded room we enjoyed being with each other. One of our greatest joys was getting into bed with each other at night. To be alone.

My wife and I have always had at least a good sex life...never bad. Sometimes great...sometimes awesome. Considering her background of being brought up by parents who may have only had sex three times, she turned out amazing. Intimacy did not come naturally to her where as I seem to feed off of it. It is part of my makeup. My wife had never had an orgasm until we met. I, on the other hand, don't think I ever went more than a couple of days without having one...from the age of 10. Throughout our marriage we had times the typical ups and downs that couples have...money issues...busy times...really busy times but we never really argued.

Perhaps it was because my wife would probably run off crying as soon as it started. She doesn't like conflict as she had a lot of "passive-aggressive" conflict in her life growing up. I like to think, looking back now, that it was because we respected each other. We didn't want to back each other into a corner or make the other feel bad just so we could feel better. Simply put, at least from my perspective, we wanted to make each other happy and really wanted the best for each other.

My wife was, and is, willing to try most things once when it comes to sex. Except for S